All You Need To Know About Temperature Play

All You Need To Know About Temperature Play

When it comes to erotic play and the world of pleasure, kinks are by and large the easiest way to figure out what works for you, and what doesn’t.


And, while some kinks do overlap, arguably one of the most versatile is temperature play.


Temperature is seen most commonly with BDSM but can be used in just about every kink you can think of.


Let’s take a look at everything you need to know about temperature play, and how to do it - safely!


Everything You Need To Know About Temperature Play


What Is Temperature Play?

Temperature play is a form of consensual sensation play. 

Because the body is covered in temperature receptors, it’s easy to get a reaction from making use of heat, or cold.


As we said earlier, the great thing about temperature play is how versatile it is. 

Many people see it as kinky, but not so kinky that it’s out of the bounds of comfortable discussion.


The Types Of Temperature Play

There are 2 types of temperature play: heat play, and cold play.


Heat Play

Like the name implies, heat play is all about making use of heat on the body.

There are a few ways to make use of heat in temperature play, namely:

  1. Warm Massage Oils

Often the best step in getting warmed up (pun intended) for sex, warming massage oils are the classic way to go, helping your partner to relax, and coating the body in oils which are great for body-kisses.


  1. Wax Play

If you want to step it up a notch, you could look at massage candles.
These are designed to be poured on the body, and used as a massage oil.
They melt at a lower temperature than normal candles, making them safe for use on skin.
The fact that you can direct the wax makes for great foreplay if your partner is blindfolded, too. 

  1. Warming Sex Toys

Whether you’re alone, or with a partner, there are a wide range of heating male masturbators and vibrators, which can heat things up in the bedroom.

  1. (Carefully) Play With Fire

Fire play is a more intense form of heat play, and involves fire near (or directly on) a person’s skin.
While this can be fun, it’s vital to make sure that you have everything you need on hand to stop any major burns, or the house burning down.

Cold Play

Not to be confused with the band, cold play is great if you’re looking to cool things down.


  1. Teasing With An Ice Cube

Listen up, people. Ice can be a great way to spice things up if you run an ice cube on the nipples, inner thigh, neck, or under the breasts.
And, if you’re a fan of oral, put an ice chip or some cold water in your mouth before going down on your partner.
The natural heat from your mouth, combined with the cold is a great way to create a very different experience.

  1. Chill Your Sex Toys

Glass and stainless steel toys can be popped in the fridge or dipped in ice water to allow them to absorb the coolness, allowing for a refreshing new take on play with yourself or your partner!

  1. Bring In Cold Foods

Try licking some ice cream off of your partner, or using popsicles across your partners nipples, testicles or anywhere else you can think of! 
Bonus points if you say your partner’s sweet!

  1. Cold Hands + Warm Mouth

Bring in some heat play for a real temperature play experience by eating out your partner while inserting some cold fingers, or sucking on their head while stimulating their shaft with cold hands.



Whether you’re a fan of heat play, cold play, or both, there’s no denying that temperature play can be an exciting experience, and open up the door for you and your partner to look at venturing into a new world of pleasure!