impact play

Beginner's Guide To Impact Play

BDSM is one of the most popular and diverse kinks in the world.
And one form of BDSM is something known as impact play.
But what is impact play?
Let’s take a look at this common (yet rarely spoken-about) kink.

The Loveangels Guide To Impact Play

What Is Impact Play?

In short, impact play is a form of BDSM where one partner strikes another with their hands or a toy for sexual gratification.
While it sounds intense, it’s an extremely wide-ranging kink with a lot of variations.
It’s seen as a way to explore tactile sensations, pain play, and physical endurance.

How To Get Into Impact Play

If you’re just getting into impact play, the best way to start is to prepare.

The Safety And Consent Checklist

Impact play can be dangerous if not done properly. 
That’s why it’s important to have a checklist in place to make sure that everybody enjoys themselves.

Do Your Homework

Learn which parts of the body are safe to strike before getting into anything.

Practice Makes Perfect

Both partners need to be aware of the risks involved, and understand that learning about impact play takes time and practice.

Discuss The Scene

Figuring out the boundaries, safe words, and tools you’ll be using are the basics for determining how everything will play out, and how far it can go.

Check In Regularly

It’s important for both parties to check in regularly and make sure that nobody’s in a position where they’re no longer enjoying the experience.

Have An Aftercare Plan

Aftercare is one of the most important parts of any BDSM scenario, and it’s vital that you take time after the intensity dies down to make sure your partner is okay - and that you are as well.
Once you’ve got your checklist, you can finally begin.

Start Slow

Like any other form of BDSM, it’s important to start slowly, and work your way up.
Agree to try one or two things with your partner, and debrief about it afterwards, to see what’s working, what isn’t, and what you’d like more of.
In terms of tools, you could look at picking up something from an adult toy store such as:

However, if you don’t have access to anything like that (or don’t want to invest in it just yet), you could grab a wooden spoon, spatula, ruler, or even just use your hand.

Start With The Rear

Once you’ve agreed on what you’re doing (and the tools you’re using), it’s time to get started.
We recommend starting with the buttocks, since it’s the meatiest area, and has a lower chance of bruising.
Now’s the time to experiment with intensity, to determine where the limits lie.
You can begin with the outer-middle area, and work your way up or down from there.
If both you and your partner are enjoying impact play, look at other areas, such as the thighs, breasts, and arms.

Find What Works Best For You

Some people may not enjoy being struck in certain areas, or may want the inflicter to be more aggressive or gentler.
It’s important to find out what works for you and your partner, as you’re the ones experiencing it.


When done properly, impact play can allow people to work through traumas, and experience new things.
Always remember to be patient, start slowly, and that consent is sexiest of all!