Butt Stuff For Beginners: The Ultimate Guide To Anal Pleasure For Beginners

Butt Stuff For Beginners: The Ultimate Guide To Anal Pleasure For Beginners


Anal play, for beginners, can be a daunting thing to think about.

But, if done properly, anal play can be a great way to add a brand new level of pleasure to the bedroom and help strengthen the bond with your partner.

So, let’s have a look at some of the best anal play toys, how to venture into the world of anal play, and how to do it safely.

Anal Play For Beginners: How To Do It Safely

It’s important not to dive straight into things. 

Here are some steps to follow when it comes to anal play for beginners to ensure that your experience is safe and fun.


  1. Start With A Finger, Toy, Or Mouth

The rectum holds a lot of tension, and we naturally tense up when something new is introduced down there. So, when you’re starting out, those muscles might not be able to open up as easily to allow for penetration.

It’s a good idea to begin by stimulating the outside of your anus with a finger, or even a vibrating toy. The external stimulation alone may be more than enough for you, or you could allow that feeling to relax you more while you slowly get ready to go deeper.

If you’ve got a partner with you, you can ask them to stimulate the area with their tongue or hands, or to give you a full-body massage to help you relax.

  1. Communicate 

Let your partner know what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you’d like them to try next. If something hurts or feels uncomfortable, stop.

  1. Use Lube

The backdoor doesn’t have a natural lubricant, meaning that it’s vital for you to use a lube - preferably one that’s designed for anal play. Saliva won’t do in this situation.


4 Best Toys For Beginners


Luxe Beginners Plug Kit

Much like the name suggests, the Luxe Beginners Plug Kit is designed for beginners. With a range of 3 different sizes, and a slim shape, it’s guaranteed to be great for anybody looking to get into anal play.


Fantasstic Vibrating Prostate Massager

Great for reaching the P-spot, and given its width, the Fantasstic Vibrating Prostate Massager is one of the best anal toys because of the fact that it vibrates (which is good for relaxing) and can slowly be inserted deeper into the body while offering a range of good vibrations.


Luxe Bling Plugs Training Kit Red Gems

Much like the beginner plug kit, the Luxe Bling Plugs Training Kit Red Gems is great thanks to its small sizes, and can be comfortably worn for as long as you’d like without feeling awkward.


Rocks Off Petite Sensations Bubbles

Last on our list is the Rocks Off Petite Sensations Bubbles. It’s called “Bubbles” because of the “popping” sensation that it gives when being inserted or removed. Add on the fact that it’s slim, vibrates, and is easy to insert makes it great when it comes to anal play for beginners.


FAQ’s About Anal Play For Beginners


Why All The Rage?

Anal play is still seen as taboo for some, but it’s got many benefits to it that other forms of pleasure play don’t. Anybody can do it. The biggest perk in anal’s favour is that, well, everybody can do it. No matter your gender, or sexual orientation, everybody’s got a butt.


It Opens Up A Whole Bunch Of (Back)doors. 

The anal region is full of sensitive nerve endings, meaning that whoever’s on the receiving end will be in for a whole new world of intense pleasure.


What If There’s Poop?

While it’s possible for sh*t to happen, the chances are incredibly slim. The area of your body that holds waste isn’t low enough for any fingers, toys or body parts to reach.

Washing thoroughly with warm water, and popping a finger inside should be more than enough to keep things clean. 

The other option is to get a douche, which helps you clean a bit more thoroughly.



Anal play for beginners can be an incredibly fun and exciting way to spice things up in the bedroom.

But, like all other fun in the bedroom, it’s vital that you’re relaxed, and feel safe. Communication, understanding (and a lot of lube) is going to be the ideal thing to make sure that you and your partner can venture into a new world of pleasure together without regretting it.