A term first coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage in 2001, “pegging” refers to a situation where a cisgender woman wears a strap-on to anally penetrate a cisgender male partner.
Despite being around for so long, however, many people still have questions about it - questions we’re here to answer!

The Loveangels Guide To Pegging For Beginners

Chances Are It Won’t Be Perfect First Time ‘Round

As with just about any other type of sex, pegging for beginners is almost definitely going to be a slow process - unlike anything you’ve seen in movies or porn.
Pegging requires a lot of communication, as well as learning how to use a strap on for the pegger, while the peggee will need to be prepared for many new feelings.
Even those experienced with pegging will tell you that trying with a new partner is about the same as doing it from the beginning.

Communication Is Key

Pegging for beginners, or anybody, really, is focused around communication. It might feel awkward, but it’s important to make sure your partner is open with you (whether they’re giving or receiving) so that you know where they are and how they’re feeling.

Practice Makes Perfect

As the giver, the first step is to watch how your partner pleasures themselves anally with their fingers and toys, keeping an eye on the depth and speed of their penetration.
Once you have an idea of what they like, you can start getting involved. 
Don’t jump into using the strap-on right away - it’s best to begin manually with toys.

Tip: Don’t just wait for your partner before you wear the strap-on. Wear it around the house to get used to having it on.

Pick The Right Tool

If you want to get into pegging, you’ll need to make sure the receiver is the one picking the penis for pegging, while you choose the harness.
The harness should be comfortable, and not too heavy, and should fit the dildo your partner chooses. 

Who’s In Control?

While it might feel like you call the shots, it’s the receiver who’s really in control. If they tell you to speed up, slow down or stop altogether, you should be following orders without a second’s hesitation.
Make sure you listen for their safe word - they are slightly more likely to get injured than you are, after all.
That’s why you have to follow their lead, and let them set the pace and depth.
You can try some positions like doggy style and spooning to figure out how to do it, or lie down and let them ride you to put them in control.

Be Prepared To Work Out

Thrusting with a strap-on is going to introduce you to an entirely new world of butt and leg exercises.
It doesn’t have to be hard and fast to be a strenuous exercise.
It’ll take time to build up the strength and stamina to go for long periods of time - don’t be afraid to rest if need be.

Aftercare Is Key

We’ve spoken before about the importance of aftercare - and for good reason.
Your partner may be feeling drained or embarrassed, and it’s important for you to be there for them.

Conclusion

If you’ve followed all of the above points, then you and your partner will probably be in good spirits after. However, it’s always important to remember:
Always listen - communication is key.
Always use lube - wetter is better!