One of the more common kinks out there is BDSM.
More specifically, bondage (that’s the “B”).
Though, while it’s one of the more common kinks, there’s still a taboo around it - a lot of which has to do with the fact that some of the positions are… well, extreme.
But if you’re looking to get into bondage, we’ve got the perfect guide to bondage for beginners just for you!

 

Bondage For Beginners: The Best Bondage Sex Positions

 Before discussing specific positions, it’s important to identify the different types of bondage.

 

Good Ol’ Bondage

In this type of bondage, the most commonly used material is rope, and the star knot is the most commonly used.
The main aim of these knots is to stop the person being tied up (the submissive) from being able to undo the knots by moving around.

 

Shibari

The name originates from the Japanese word for “tie”, and focuses on placing ties in areas that highlight the figure of the body, highlighting intimate parts of the body - especially the female body.
Shibari knots are also tied along acupuncture points to stimulate them and increase sexual energy.
It’s a complex art, and definitely not a good idea as a form of bondage for beginners.

 

Shinju

Shinju (“Pearl” in English) is a euphemism for the type of bondage that centres around tying rope around a woman’s breasts to accentuate them.
Unlike other forms of bondage, it’s not focused on immobilisation, but rather on the body.
It can be done over clothing, or directly on skin, and involves tying knots around the breasts so that they bulge outward. 

 

Crotch Bondage

This type of bondage involves tying a rope around a woman’s waist and passing it between the labia.
It’s favoured by many bondage experts as a form of bondage that causes stimulation against the vagina, creating arousal as the ropes rub against the body.

 

Suspension Bondage

Definitely not a good form of bondage for beginners, suspension bondage involves suspending somebody by tying them to different points. 
This is one of the more dangerous types of bondage, so it’s important to make sure you know what you’re doing with this one.

 

Humiliation Bondage

Favoured by those with a humiliation kink, humiliation bondage involves tying the arms and legs into an “X” shape, forcing them to show off their intimate areas whether they want to or not - as well as giving easy access to whoever’s there. 

 

Head Bondage

Head bondage focuses on immobilising… you guessed it: the head.
This type of bondage is a bit more aggressive and riskier than others, as the submissive can’t necessarily communicate if they’re okay or not, so be sure to practice this with extreme caution, and (if you’re a beginner) steer clear until you’ve explored other avenues of bondage.

 

Torture Bondage

This one’s for the sadomasochists out there.
While bondage - especially bondage for beginners - isn’t about pain, torture bondage is most definitely an exception to the rule.
It usually involves uncomfortable positions or suspension for long periods of time, causing pain for the submissive.

 

Chastity Bondage

Love controlling your partner? 
Then chastity bondage may be for you.
Chastity bondage focuses on taking the ability to have sex away from the submissive altogether, and usually involves full latex suits, vacuum beds, and other forms of chastity play.

 

Sensorial Deprivation Bondage

This is considered one of the more extreme types of bondage out there, and involves depriving the submissive of some (or all) of their senses.
The most common tool used in sensorial deprivation bondage is the mask.

And that wraps up the types of bondage. Let’s get into some positions!

1. The Ragdoll

One of the best positions when it comes to bondage for beginners, the Ragdoll position involves spooning, with the little spoon having their hands bound in front of them.
If you want to up the ante, you can always throw in a blindfold for extra fun.

2. Spread Eagle 

Best used when tying somebody to the bed, the Spread Eagle is great for beginners getting into bondage, as your submissive lies helpless to your whims. To add something extra, try a blindfold or have a look at temperature play.

3. Crab Tie

Ideal for those who enjoy taking the active role in oral pleasure while your partner remains more submissive, the Crab Tie involves having your partner sit with their knees raised to their chest.
Tie their forearms to their calves, and you’ve got free reign to move your partner around, or open and close their legs as you see fit.
If they’re sitting, it’s perfect for them to reach up and orally pleasure the dominant. If you’d like, you can bend over for a 69 which you have far more control over. 

4. Hogtie

If you’re looking at bondage for beginners, the hogtie undeniably sits up there as a position which you have to try.
All you have to do is tie the submissive’s arms and legs together in one spot, and have fun!

5. The Chair

This one is fairly self-explanatory.
All you need is a high-back chair to which you can tie your partner.
It’s great for hands-free lap dances (or more if you’re creative).

6. The Mark/Wide Open

This one is popular, and it’s easy too!
All you have to do is tie your submissive’s hands and feet together, and haul them over the sub’s head. The legs can be kept apart with the help of a spreader bar. 
Be careful with this position - keeping the arms and legs above the body for long periods of time can cause circulatory problems (or even fainting).
Also, make sure to use padded cuffs for this one!

7. Leap Frog/Bottom’s Up

Similar to doggy style, the Leap Frog includes restraints to spice things up.
For this position, the submissive needs to have their wrists bound to their ankles, with the arms passing between the legs, or around them (depending on their flexibility).
The sub can raise their behind and let the dom go to town, either with a paddle, toy or body part.

8. Bent Over

Bondage for beginners involves many positions that may seem easy, but are used by newbies and experts alike, and the Bent Over position is a great example of this.
All your submissive needs to do is bend over, and have their legs and hands bound together.
They might need help with their balance, but hands on hips are part of the fun, aren’t they?

9. Ball Tie

In the Ball Tie position, the submissive is curled into the foetal position and bound in place by their hands and feet.
If you’d like, you can add in a gag to spice things up even more. 

10. Wall Bound

This one’s a great choice for beginners since not much preparation is required.
The Wall Bound position involves tying the submissive to a wall (or a showerhead if you’re in the shower) with bondage tape.  

 

Conclusion

Bondage can be an exciting way to spice things up in the bedroom, but the one thing more important than any rope, tape or restraint is consent. Make sure both parties are having fun, and that they feel safe. Don’t hop into more complex positions until you’re both sure you can do it together.