Despite being one of the most common fantasies in the world, threesomes can be complicated to navigate.

Luckily, the Loveangels team is here to give you the ultimate guide on having a threesome!

Having A Threesome: A Loveangels Guide

What Is A Threesome?

If you don’t already know what a threesome is, here’s a brief description.

A threesome is any sexual activity that includes 3 consenting adults.

In some cases, a threesome is made up of 3 single people. 

Other times, it’s made up of a couple and a third person.

How To Set Up A Threesome

Speak Up

Like introducing sex toys in the bedroom, involving a third person is something that has to be thought through and communicated clearly.

Unlike something which could heighten a sexual experience for both partners, the dynamic of adding a third person can lead to insecurity, paranoia, and jealousy.

Make sure your partner knows that they are still your focal point in the bedroom.

Choose Carefully

Having a threesome comes with unique challenges to consider depending on who you choose to involve.

If you include a stranger, you have to make sure that it’s safe to involve them.

If you choose a friend, you run the risk of complicating the friendship.

Make sure you’ve thought through as many situations as possible before following through with anything.

Use Dating Apps

The best place to start is somewhere with people who have a similar goal in mind. 

You and your partner can set up a joint profile, and communicate what you’re looking for in a threesome partner, from gender to sexual orientation.

Make Sure Everyone Knows What’s Happening

No matter who you choose to invite, it’s vital that you establish clear lines of communication. When you finally do find the right person, be direct and open about your desires, and your expectations.

It may take some time, but being patient will ultimately lead to the right choice for you and your partner.

Tips For A Successful Threesome

Set Your Intention

Take the time to think about what you want to get out of the experience. This is especially important for first-timers.

Are you trying to fulfil a fantasy? Do you want to explore your sexuality? Is there something missing from your current sex life? 

Determine why you want to embark on this journey, and follow that goal.

Set Boundaries

After finding the right person for your threesome, everybody should sit down and discuss the boundaries and ground rules.

Everyone should agree on which sexual acts are allowed and which ones aren’t.

This can range from kissing to penetration, and everything in between.

Make sure you always have consent from everybody involved.

Get Comfortable

Light some candles, choose some music, and set the mood.

Start by talking and flirting, and let it progress naturally.

Once everything begins, try a few different positions out to see what works.

Make sure you’ve got lots of lube, and don’t be afraid to bring some sex toys in.

If anybody feels uncomfortable at any point, everyone should stop immediately to make sure there’s no upset.

Debrief

Once you’re done, spend some time with your sexual partners discussing what you enjoyed, and what they enjoyed. Decide if you want to do this again, or if it was just a once-off thing.

Conclusion

Having a threesome can be a very complicated thing. 

But it doesn’t have to be.

If you have a partner who’s open to the idea, and keep your communication open and honest, you’ll find that having a threesome is a liberating experience that can strengthen your relationship instead of pulling it apart.