Having a long-term relationship is an amazing thing.
It offers the opportunity to deeply understand a person, and be able to express your deepest, darkest self.
A chance to find somebody you can spend the rest of your life with.
Yet, despite all of these perks, many people experience a dip in the sexier aspects of their relationship.
In this guide, we’ll take a look at keeping your relationship sexy, and how to make sure your long-term relationship remains strong in every aspect.
The Loveangels Guide To Keeping Your Relationship Sexy
Why Do Relationships Slow Down?
Also known as the honeymoon phase, the first few months of any relationship is, inevitably, going to be packed full of intensity as you understand a person, and have them understand you.
But, while that might be fun, the honeymoon phase isn’t sustainable.
We’d burn out if we were to go through life in that way.
And, once that phase passes, it’s replaced with something powerful: security.
A sudden shift from the chaos and intensity of the initial few months often leads people to believe that their relationship is fading - when, in fact, it’s a sign that your relationship is getting stronger.
The truth is that the flame isn’t necessarily gone - it just needs to be lit in a different way.
Reigniting The Spark
As novelty becomes familiarity, and you learn more about a person (like how they snore), what excites you about them will change as well.
The key to keeping your relationship sexy is to look at who that person is outside of the relationship - what attracted you to them in the first place.
Many times, when we enter into a relationship, we often leave the independent and autonomous part of ourselves behind.
To keep your relationship strong - find what you love about them, and show them your authenticity, and what they found attractive about you.
Re-engage With The Romance
Keeping your relationship sexy starts by reigniting the romance.
There are a few simple ways you can do it:
Pursue The Novelty Together
“Do you want to take a trip this weekend?”
“How about a staycation, where we look at pursuing a new hobby together?”
Phrases like these keep your relationship strong by inviting the person to join you on an adventure - as their own person, not just a partner.
Take Risks And Think Outside The Box
Get your hiking gear together and go camping, make a meal from scratch, sign up for dancing lessons.
Doing things that are outside of the norm are great at creating adrenaline and endorphins - the same chemicals you feel in the honeymoon phase.
Seek Sexual Novelty
While many couples are monogamous, looking at spicing things up by bringing a third person into the mix for one night can change things up.
If you’re looking for something a bit tamer, you could always discuss bringing in sex toys.
If you’re unsure about approaching the topic of bringing sex toys into the bedroom, we’ve got a great guide on how to tell your partner you want to bring sex toys into the bedroom!
Check Your Stress
One of the leading causes of a dip in sex drive for women is stress.
Keeping your relationship sexy is about setting an intention, and managing that stress.
Focus On Sexual Wellness
In order to keep your relationship strong, you need to focus on every aspect of it.
Sexual wellness is as important as mental and physical wellness, and could include intimate massages or making use of toys.
Make Time For Pleasure
The intimacy we feel doesn’t have to come at the cost of sexual energy.
Bringing partner-specific toys in, or looking at some sexy lingerie is a great way to spice things up and reinvite that energy.
Remember - There’s No Love Like Yours
At the end of the day, these may seem scary, or daunting.
But remember - your partner chose to be with you. That means you don’t need to be afraid of changing things up to keep your relationship strong - and sexy!