The Benefits of Watching Porn Together as a Couple
If you ask anyone whether they’ve watched porn, most will likely say, “Yeah, I have”. But if asked whether they watch porn with their partner/s, very few would say the same. Here we delve into how watching porn together can be an exciting new sexual experience. It’s also a way to open up conversations about what you’re into and add a bit of spontaneity to your normal mode of sex.
Couples who watch porn together
Stay together. (This is not confirmed by any experts – we just sneaked it in because it had a ring to it.) But researchers found something interesting when surveying U.S. participants in relationships. The study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy discovered that couples who watched porn together experienced positive effects.
The main benefit: greater long-term sexual intimacy.
That said, some people are just not into it. And that’s okay. If you have tried to watch porn together before, but it wasn’t for you or your partner/s, there is no pressure to convince yourself or your partner to do it.
There is no one-size-fits-all to sexual experiences. As long as everyone involved consents, feels safe and has a good time, anything goes.
Considering what the experts say, how should you introduce pornos into your sex life, and does the type of porn matter? Loveangels has got all the answers to these burning questions.
The benefits of watching porn together
Let’s get into the pros of couples who watch porn together.
Adding some zing to the mundane
You most probably couldn’t keep your hands off one another at the beginning of a relationship. It’s exhilarating, new, and sexy. And after a while, especially in long-term relationships, the sex can get well, honestly, predictable or boring.
Don’t get us wrong. Many couples can keep the heat going by trying out their kinks and comfortably exploring new things. But if sex is starting to feel like a chore because there’s nothing novel about it, then porn may be the hero you need to rescue what’s happening between the sheets.
Porn is visually stimulating. It can get anyone in the mood. Watch it together as a couple to get those juices flowing.
The imitation game
Couples who watch porn together can get creative and activate their sexual exploration. With an abundance of various kinks, settings and actors within the realm of pornography, you can discover new ideas to use in the bedroom. Think of new sexual positions, sex toys, or roleplaying to spice things up.
You can even turn it into a sex game. Watch porn together and choose a sexual position to try out while watching.
Sexual confidence boost
You’re watching a porn video together, and suddenly, your kinky fantasy appears on the screen. Afterwards, you ask your partner, “What did you think about them doing X?” Enabling you to open up the conversation around your sexual preferences and what you would like to introduce to your sex life.
Best porn for couples to watch
Let’s be honest. Porn can be misleading. It’s not all rainbows, flexibility and multiple orgasms in a row. Keeping this in mind while watching together can take the pressure off to perform or look a certain way.
That’s why finding the right kind of porn that offers something for both partners is ideal.
Opening the porn convo
This is more of a Sunday morning having coffee in bed kind-of-convo. Ease into it slowly with your partner. (And avoid bringing it up before or during sex.) Ask them if there’s anything they would like to introduce, hear them out and when it’s your turn to share ideas, let them know you would like to watch porn together. And if they don’t seem keen about the idea – don’t force it – find something else that you would both like to explore.
Keepin’ it real
Ever heard of “ethical porn”? Many people, especially females, find mainstream porn degrading or an absolute turn-off. These porn sites often fetishise sex from a straight male’s perspective (and sometimes, straight men don’t even like it). It can be unrealistic, create false expectations of sex and lead to positions that look great but don’t feel any good.
On the flip side, ethical porn is more inclusive. Ethical porn includes people of all ages and sizes in different settings and various kinks. Lust Cinema, Make Love Not Porn and Bellesa are a few of the many paid-sites available.
And yes, you pay for their content. Why? Performers are paid and treated fairly and professionally. Plus, you can access an array of content that aligns with what you enjoy.
Time to get it on
Whether you watch porn together or haven’t tried it yet, it opens the sexual space to spice things up, increase intimacy with your partner and give you the confidence boost you need. Keep it safe and fun, and discover new things about your relationship you never thought were possible.
