mutual masturbation

The Loveangels Guide To Mutual Masturbation

For many people, masturbation is a way to get to know themselves better.
So, it makes sense then that mutual masturbation is a great way to learn about your partner’s body, too.
Let’s take a look at mutual masturbation, and how you (and your partner) can get it on, while learning more about each other!

The Loveangels Guide To Mutual Masturbation

What Is Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation has 2 different definitions:

  1. Masturbating with another party

  2. Masturbating the other party while they masturbate you.

The beauty of getting off together is that you can do it in so many ways, and in so many places (but more on that in a bit).

How To Get Started

Much like talking to your partner about bringing sex toys into the bedroom, the first thing you should start with is a conversation about it.

Ask your partner what they think about the idea of mutual masturbation.

Talk about what you’d get out of it, how it would look for you, and how it would bring you closer together.

For example, long-distance couples could find mutual masturbation to be a great way to remain connected while apart, while partners with different libidos could find that it’s a great way to ensure both partners enjoy the experience.

Once you’ve discussed it (and made sure both partners are on board) it’s time to take things into your own hands and set the scene.


Setting The Mood

Like any other kind of bedroom experience, mutual masturbation is best experienced in the right environment.

Here are some things to consider when deciding how to get things going.

  • Create A Space That Uses Your Senses

Soft mood lighting, scented candles, and music are great ways to make use of your senses, and create a heightened experience.

  • Find Somewhere Comfortable

Places such as bathtubs, beds, and couches are great places to get into mutual masturbation.

  • Take Your Partner In

Before stripping down and getting it on, take a moment to look at your partner.
Tell them what you love about them, and ask them what they love about you.

  • Get Experimental With Positions

Take some time to think about positions.
When it comes to mutual masturbation ideas, the only limit is your imagination.

But, if you’re looking for a position or two to get you started, try these:


  1. The Mutual Missionary

Think missionary position, but with hands instead of anything else.

One partner can lie on their back, with the other partner on top of them.
From there, you can either start by touching yourself, or your partner, while they touch you, or themselves.


  1. The Side-To-Side

This position is great for those who are a bit shy about mutual masturbation.

Both partners sit side by side, or lie on their backs, and begin touching the other person. If you want to heat it up, lock eyes for extra sexiness.


  1. The Full-Frontal Face Off

For those who aren’t afraid to show off, the Full-Frontal Face Off has you face your partner, splay your legs, and go to town for them.

  • Speak Up!

If you’re really getting into it, try telling your partner how good it feels, what it’s doing to you, and how much they turn you on.
Dirty talk is a fantastic way to get the mood set for mutual masturbation.

  • Try Toys

Making use of sex toys is a great way to ensure your partner feels good too.

Male masturbators and vibrators are just two of the toys you could consider when getting into mutual masturbation.

  • Tease Your Partner

Teasing your partner with toys or touch are also good ways to get them all riled up, and ready to go.

What About Long-Distance?

The rules and positions are very similar, regardless of the distance.

The only big change is that you’d be taking care of yourself (unless you’re using remote-controlled toys).

On top of the above tips, you could also look at reading erotic stories to each other. 

If you’re only on the phone, then sound becomes everything.
Make sure your partner can hear you well. 

Is It Safe?

While mutual masturbation isn’t completely STD-free, it’s definitely safer than penetration.


Mutual masturbation is a great way to get to know yourself and your partner better.
While approaching the topic may be awkward, once you’re talking about it, you may find that it’s easier to get into than you’d expect!