The Best BDSM Accessories For Beginners
The Best BDSM Accessories For Beginners
For most people, the term “kinky” is associated with BDSM.
While it may be a fun and interesting way to spice things up in the bedroom, it’s not quite the same as what Fifty Shades Of Gray made it out to be.
Entering the world of BDSM means working your way up slowly, and that means getting the best beginner accessories for yourself and your partner.
Before you shop for your adult toys online, you should be clued up on what to get.
Let’s have a look at our list of the best BDSM accessories!
Disclaimer: BDSM is fun, but it should be approached carefully. Beginner BDSM accessories exist for a reason, and trying to go straight to more advanced accessories can be dangerous. If you’re new to the concept of BDSM, we also recommend that you read our guide on 10 things you should know about BDSM before doing it.
Blindfolds
For many people, a big aspect of BDSM play is sensory deprivation.When you take away one sense, the others become amplified - which is where the blindfold comes in.
For beginners, it’s a good idea to use the classic design. It’s a great way for both the submissive and the dominant to ease into BDSM play - plus, it’s great for napping too.
Gags
Speaking of sensory deprivation, another one of the key accessories to use in BDSM play is the gag.
Gags are designed to remove the ability to speak, removing a level of power from the submissive, and can be made from just about anything.
For beginners, it’s recommended to use a soft ball gag, or a mouth spreader for those looking for a slightly rougher experience.
Restraints
As far as BDSM accessories go, restraints are symbolic of everything BDSM is about, and are easily one of the most iconic on this list.
There’s a massive range of restraints, each of them offering a different kind of bondage experience.
For some, the act of tying up (or being tied up) is ritualistic, and they’ll often opt for rope restraints.
For others, it’s a smaller part of the bigger scene. In instances like that, classic cuffs are the way to go, since they’re faster to use.
For beginners, though, we recommend making use of bondage tape. It’s easy to use and only sticks to itself, and allows for quick or slow application, making it one of the greatest BDSM accessories for beginners and pros alike.
Paddles
For those curious about getting into BDSM, paddles are a great place to start.
These are designed to create a dynamic where the submissive and dominant roles are easily identifiable.
While other contact toys like floggers and whips are out there, we recommend that beginners start with a larger, softer paddle to find the balance between too much and too little.
Clamps
While they’re mostly used on women, clamps are a very versatile tool, and can be used on everything from nipples to genitals, and can combine with restraints for an even more restrictive experience for the submissive.On top of that, it’s one of the best ways to explore other pain-play avenues.
For the beginners, easing into pain-play (especially with clamps) can be the difference between loving or hating BDSM. We recommend using adjustable, rubber clamps.
Vibrators
Were you expecting to find this on the list?
When combined with blindfolds and restraints, vibrators are a great way to add in another level of uncertainty for the submissive, meaning more control for the dominant.
While the range of vibrators is huge, we recommend looking at the classic wand for beginners. It can be plugged in, meaning more time for teasing, and more time for learning.
Plus, it’s a great toy for both men and women!
Consent
Last on the list of BDSM accessories for beginners is consent.
Consent is, ultimately, what makes or breaks any relationship, but especially one where control is given to one party.
Make sure you and your partner sit down and have an open discussion about your limits, desires and agree on the best way forward together to make sure that both of you have fun.