As one of the most iconic adult toys out there, vibrators are a versatile tool for single and couple play alike.
But - how do you enjoy those good vibrations?
Let’s look at how to use a vibrator.

How To Use A Vibrator: A Loveangels Guide

Before getting into the ins and outs of vibrator sex, it’s important to determine what kind of vibrator you should use.
There are a few different types of vibrator, such as:

External Clitoral Stimulators

For those who prefer non-penetrative play, or want to put the spotlight on the clitoris during sex, then an external clitoral stimulator is ideal.
These range from bullets, to palm vibrators, all the way to the classic wand.
You might even notice air pulse stimulators.
While they’re not technically vibrators, they fall into the same category, and are a great pick for those who enjoy having oral stimulation on their clitoris.

Internal Vaginal Stimulators

If you enjoy penetration, then these are the vibrators for you.
For those who prefer cervix (C-spot) or anterior fornix zone (A-spot) stimulation, longer insertable vibrators are the best choice, since these spots are further back.
But, if you enjoy G-spot stimulation, try a G-spot vibrator.

Internal & External Stimulators

Want a bit of both?
We’ve got you covered!
This number one vibrator in this category is so popular that we wrote an entire blog on its origins.
That’s right - we’re talking about the Rabbit vibrator.
This is a great choice for those trying out sex toys for the first time as well, since it gives you an opportunity to try both external and internal stimulation.
Alternatively, if you enjoy alternating between internal and external stimulation, you could look at vibrating eggs.
These are great for swapping between penetration and clitoral stimulation, making them a great toy if you’re planning on involving a partner! 

Anal Stimulators

In our article on butt stuff for beginners, we point out that a toy is a great idea if you’re getting into anal play.
But it’s not just for beginners.
In fact, there’s an entire range of anal stimulators to choose from!
With anal stimulators, it’s important to figure out if you prefer something that replicates anal sex, or something that can be inserted - and that’ll stay put.
If you prefer something that thrusts, then looking at an anal vibrator is the best option.
But if you prefer something that’s insertable without the thrusting, have a look at vibrating butt plugs.

Prostate Stimulators

Considered to be the male G-spot, the prostate (or P-spot) can be easily stimulated in men.
Prostate stimulators function in the same way as butt plugs, but have an added curve for extra stimulation.  

Penile Stimulators

Yes, penis vibrators exist - and they have variations too!
If you prefer vibration and constriction, then a vibrating cock ring is the way to go.
But if you just want the vibration, then a vibrating male masturbator is going to get you the sensation you’re looking for.

What About The Bells And Whistles?

If you’re new to the world of vibrators, we recommend using one made of silicone.
It’s lifelike, and - more importantly - it’s easy to clean.
Once you’ve decided on the material, you should look at the other features it comes with.
If you want to use your toy in the bath or shower, then you should look for a waterproof vibrator.
Are you using your toy with a partner?
Then you should look at an app- or remote-controlled vibrator!
Don't mind buying batteries every so often?
Then try a battery-powered vibrator.
Want something that recharges?
Then go for a rechargeable vibrator!
Whatever your preference, thinking about what you want is the difference between a purchase and an investment.

How To Use A Vibrator

Make Sure You’re Ready To Go

Before you learn how to use a vibrator, it’s important to make sure you have:

• A charged vibrator.
• Lots of lube.

Set The Mood

It’s hard to get into the mood when the atmosphere doesn’t lend itself to pleasure.
Turn on some music, light a candle, put on an erotic flick, and get comfortable.

Start With Erogenous Zones

Try running your vibrator over some non-genital areas, like your inner thigh, neck, and breasts.
Familiarise yourself with your vibrator, its functions, powers, and modes.

Try Over Your Undies

This point is especially important if you’re super sensitive.
Try using the vibrator over your underwear (we recommend a material like silk or satin to avoid chafing).
If you want, you can add a dab of lube to the underside of your underwear to reduce friction.

Try Out Angles And Pressure

Depending on the type of vibrator you’re using, you may want to try different pressures, modes, and angles to figure out the sweet spot for those good vibrations.

Try Edging

Now that you’re comfortable with the vibrator, you should try using it to edge.
Edging is the practice of controlling your orgasms by getting as close as possible to climaxing before stopping and cooling down.
It’s a good way to become aware of what’s working for you - and to increase the power of your orgasm.

Find What Works For You

Ultimately, learning how to use a vibrator means learning what gets you off.
If you’re enjoying yourself, then you’re doing it right!

What About Vibrator Sex With A Partner?

In our guide to telling your partner you want to introduce toys in the bedroom, we talk about how to bring up the topic step by step.
But here’s a brief breakdown:

Make Sure The Timing Is Right

You don’t want to talk about bringing a vibrator into the mix while you’re being intimate with your partner.
Make sure you’re both in a good headspace, and discuss it like you would anything else.

It’s An Addition, Not A Replacement

For some people, the thought of their partner using sex toys makes them feel like they’re being replaced.
To avoid that, let them know that you want to use it as a way to strengthen your bond, not weaken it.

Be Prepared To Reassure Them

If your partner does agree to using a vibrator in the bedroom, make sure you reassure them often so that they don’t feel like a spare cog.

Shop For A Vibrator Together

Encourage your partner to look at vibrators with you. It’s a good way to make them feel involved.

Encourage Them To Use One, Too

If your partner is open to you using a sex toy, you should be open to them using a vibrator.
Encourage them to look at buying their own toy to bring into the bedroom, or look for a toy that you can use together.
If you follow all of the steps - and remain patient - your partner may come around to the idea eventually.
Once that’s done, it’s simply a matter of deciding how you want to use your vibrator.
If you want added stimulation during sex, try using it to stimulate yourself externally.
Or, try showing off in front of your partner. Mutual masturbation is a huge turn-on!

Conclusion

As with all sex toys, vibrators are a great way to explore your body, and to strengthen bonds with partners.
Always remember to clean your toy and pack it away safely to avoid STIs and UTIs, use lots of lube, and remember: consent is sexiest of all!